14may2011
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
The solemn promise of the ring on my finger.
Our civil wedding was solemnized yesterday. May 9, 2011. Judge Rojo from Branch 5(of BC Hall of Justice) officiated the ceremony. I think the wedding rites lasted for a good hour. He first counselled us about SSS pension and contribution, about the law governing retirement pay entitlement even if you worked in a call center, and preparing for old age and not expecting help from your offsprings. His advices did not only constitute the legal aspect of marital life but also practical ways to save married couples of the heartaches of finances or from their kids in the future. He was not corny at all. I love how the counselling was unexpected and really light, and it was FUN.
He then explained the 3 facets of legalities in marriage, our ability to contract, that we came on our own volition, and the legal documents needed for marrying such as the marriage license.
Furthermore, he asked us if we wrote our vows. We didn't, so we asked him that we follow the traditional vows spoken from generations amongst generations. But he took a wedding reading/ promise fom the Bible:
"Do not urge me to leave you or turn back from following you; for where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.
"Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. Thus may the LORD do to me, and worse, if anything but death parts you and me."
Ruth 1:16-17
As J spoke his vow, I wind up in tears. I was surprised too cuz we were laughing the whole time as J promised the judge that he'd give me TLC- and he quipped: tomatoes, lettuce, and cheese, sandwich we had for breakfast. ;p
After the exchanges of wedding vows, Judge Rojo spoke to us again. He read some passages from the Bible about God's supplication. About God not leaving us wanting or lacking of things. About the wife's expectation from the husband w/c is protection and the husband's from the wife- submission. About staying together and about how we export mothers and fathers overseas, leaving a dysfunctional family.
It was beautiful altogether. I couldn't help but feel blessed because God answered my prayers even if I hadn't really mouthed it- through the judge who took presided our civil wedding.
We then had lunch at L Fisher hotel. The gathering was so intimate, we had J's mother(who prayed over the wedding rites before it started) and his half-sister, and his BFF as guests. Lol. I wish my family was there to see it too, but everything was impromptu.
My husband can be a pain in the tush most times, but now I hold on to his vow and the solemn promise of the ring on my finger.
It's a cruel, cruel summer
- My engagement ring looks like a wedding band with 3 tiny diamonds on it. It's very pretty. http://twitpic.com/4vtyh9 32 minutes ago via Twitpic
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Wouldn't it be nice if we get married?
Our civil wedding was solemnized yesterday. May 9, 2011. Judge Rojo from Branch 5(of BC Hall of Justice) officiated the ceremony. I think the wedding rites lasted for a good hour. He first counselled us about SSS pension and contribution, about the law governing retirement pay entitlement even if you worked in a call center, and preparing for old age and not expecting help from your offsprings. His advices did not only constitute the legal aspect of marital life but also practical ways to save married couples of the heartaches of finances or from their kids in the future. He was not corny at all. I love how the counselling was unexpected and really light, and it was FUN.
He then explained the 3 facets of legalities in marriage, our ability to contract, that we came on our own volition, and the legal documents needed for marrying such as the marriage license.
Furthermore, he asked us if we wrote our vows. We didn't, so we asked him that we follow the traditional vows spoken from generations amongst generations. But he took a wedding reading/ promise fom the Bible:
"Do not urge me to leave you or turn back from following you; for where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.
"Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. Thus may the LORD do to me, and worse, if anything but death parts you and me."
Ruth 1:16-17
As J spoke his vow, I wind up in tears. I was surprised too cuz we were laughing the whole time as J promised the judge that he'd give me TLC- and he quipped: tomatoes, lettuce, and cheese, sandwich we had for breakfast. ;p
After the exchanges of wedding vows, Judge Rojo spoke to us again. He read some passages from the Bible about God's supplication. About God not leaving us wanting or lacking of things. About the wife's expectation from the husband w/c is protection and the husband's from the wife- submission. About staying together and about how we export mothers and fathers overseas, leaving a dysfunctional family.
It was beautiful altogether. I couldn't help but feel blessed because God answered my prayers even if I hadn't really mouthed it- through the judge who took presided our civil wedding.
We then had lunch at L Fisher hotel. The gathering was so intimate, we had J's mother(who prayed over the wedding rites before it started) and his half-sister, and his BFF as guests. Lol. I wish my family was there to see it too, but everything was impromptu.
My husband can be a pain in the tush most times, but now I hold on to his vow and the solemn promise of the ring on my finger.
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
My Cutie Patootie
Monday, May 2, 2011
of the mundane and ordinaries
-We've been watching this Manga series entitled One Piece, it's about a boy who has the flexibility of a rubber and is self-assured that he will be the King of the Pirates. Funnnnnnnn. It's been 3 days already and we're still hooked.
-Realized that mothers cannot just let go of their first-born. I wish I wouldn't wind up like such. I don't aim to be the coolest mom, but I just wish that one day my daughter would just become the person whom she wants to be and that I would understand most, if not all things she's gonna go through. (To condone is really different from understanding.) And I would just learn to let go.
-We had supper at Raffy's Sizzlers last night, it's the most disgusting place to eat in the city. Haha, promise, I would rather have chow at the pungko pungkos in Cebu.
-I got a measly 2k from my old apartment's deposit. I honestly cannot recall that there's a 60 day-inform-the-owner-you'll-leave clause w/in the contract. IT PAYS TO READ AND KEEP COPY OF CONTRACTS!
-I've been totally hormonal. There are days when I loathe JJ for not doing the chores at home on time, and there are days when I feel so lovey-dovey towards him. These states are both driving me nuts.
-On vivid dreams, last night I dreamt of our first family house in South Cotabato, you know how a place would seem too gigantic for a 2 or 3 year old? I really miss having my own parents at their own house no matter how annoying both of them can be most times. ;p
-Cut a finger while sponging a kitchen knife, I've been really making progress in making meals though, I can "cook" garlic fried rice w/ sweet ham with the help of this MSG-laden seasoning- Ginisa Flavor Mix, and make a mean potato,macaroni salad. (: Or maybe my boy's just hungry.
-J lost his dad when he was 7 to a heart attack. His dad was as tall as he and he was medium built(I've seen photos), I pass through the cemetery where his dad lays on my daily commute, makes me wonder if it's more hurtful to grow up without a father, or to grow up with an alcoholic father who'd let you down numerous times. In both ways, I think it's hurtful.
-I'm still waiting for the engagement ring. Haha, I wanted it more than wanting to be married. You can always return the ring, but you can't return your husband's last name. It will be indelible if you don't have money for annulment. (Sometimes, I think two people can't always stay together forever, even if they promise to. I wish I would be wrong about this when it comes to me and my child's father.)
-My back hurts, my stomach hurts, and I always wind up worried because I get attacked by heartburn every so often.
-I kinda wanna go toiletries shopping today, I want huge bottles of hair detangler(cumbersome to comb one's hair), Calgon spritz that smells like ocean, and a tub of body butter. Maybe tomorrow. Maybe on weekend. I'm too lazy to budge.
-Dichee turned 28 on May 1. Philippine Labor Day. I like her birthday. It's a reminder to work really hard and work honestly even if you sometimes don't want to.
-Kairi at 2 can now feel sibling rivalry and says her Mommy loves her Shobe only. Oh well, I will only have one child to spare me of the guilt.
Truth disappears with history and gossip tells us in the end nothing of personal relationships. There are stories of elopements, unrequited love, family feuds, and exhausting vendettas, which everyone was drawn into, had to be involved with. But nothing I said of the closeness between two people: how they grew in the shade of each other’s presence. No one speaks of that exchange of gift and character – the way a person took on and recognized in himself the smile of a lover.
Michael Ondaatje, Running in the Family
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