Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

The solemn promise of the ring on my finger.






Our civil wedding was solemnized yesterday. May 9, 2011. Judge Rojo from Branch 5(of BC Hall of Justice) officiated the ceremony. I think the wedding rites lasted for a good hour. He first counselled us about SSS pension and contribution, about the law governing retirement pay entitlement even if you worked in a call center, and preparing for old age and not expecting help from your offsprings. His advices did not only constitute the legal aspect of marital life but also practical ways to save married couples of the heartaches of finances or from their kids in the future. He was not corny at all. I love how the counselling was unexpected and really light, and it was FUN.

He then explained the 3 facets of legalities in marriage, our ability to contract, that we came on our own volition, and the legal documents needed for marrying such as the marriage license.

Furthermore, he asked us if we wrote our vows. We didn't, so we asked him that we follow the traditional vows spoken from generations amongst generations. But he took a wedding reading/ promise fom the Bible:
"Do not urge me to leave you or turn back from following you; for where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.

"Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. Thus may the LORD do to me, and worse, if anything but death parts you and me."
Ruth 1:16-17
As J spoke his vow, I wind up in tears. I was surprised too cuz we were laughing the whole time as J promised the judge that he'd give me TLC- and he quipped: tomatoes, lettuce, and cheese, sandwich we had for breakfast. ;p

After the exchanges of wedding vows, Judge Rojo spoke to us again. He read some passages from the Bible about God's supplication. About God not leaving us wanting or lacking of things. About the wife's expectation from the husband w/c is protection and the husband's from the wife- submission. About staying together and about how we export mothers and fathers overseas, leaving a dysfunctional family.

It was beautiful altogether. I couldn't help but feel blessed because God answered my prayers even if I hadn't really mouthed it- through the judge who took presided our civil wedding.

We then had lunch at L Fisher hotel. The gathering was so intimate, we had J's mother(who prayed over the wedding rites before it started) and his half-sister, and his BFF as guests. Lol. I wish my family was there to see it too, but everything was impromptu.

My husband can be a pain in the tush most times, but now I hold on to his vow and the solemn promise of the ring on my finger.

It's a cruel, cruel summer

  1. My engagement ring looks like a wedding band with 3 tiny diamonds on it. It's very pretty. http://twitpic.com/4vtyh9

  2. Should the 13th month pay be computed as your total gross earnings minus your unpaid absences, LOA, and tardiness? Is this correct?

  3. I had two plates of california maki today. Thought it will help alleviate the rib-poke courtesy of #babypirate, it didn't.

  4. @BSuaco Thank you wafa.

  5. @rakstarppip Thanks Pip.

  6. 4 hours seated on a monobloc chair. OUCH. Punish.

  7. is now Mrs. Piao. Ha-ha.

  8. @Martinabugarin thanks amega.

  9. @BSuaco we did. It was fun diay.

  10. Betrothed. #foreversoon

  11. Will share J’s last name tomorrow. #surreal

  12. My engagement ring arrived yestrday. =p It’s precious bec the stones were fr JJs late dad.

  13. Will be wearing a vintage-looking, short dress with antique lace in ecru tomorrow. =p

  14. Under the weather since yesterday. =<

  15. @BSuaco happy mothers day wafa!

  16. Dint knw tat Mothers Day Sunday entails cake. Ths,accrdng 2 my youngr sistrs.

  17. JJ and I had the best batchoy today. Sooooo much bone marrow.

  18. "God has stitched and breathed beautiful life inside of me." #tumblrlogs

  19. On my 7th month! Trying to beat drowsiness, encore of nausea, back ache, rib-pokes, and heartburn! #almosthere #babypirate

  20. The LORD is my strength, the reason for my song, because he has saved me. Exodus 15:2

  21. Yes. I do wish I could be another Mary, but that will never happen. (Saw this off tumblr.) #teenpregnancies

  22. Ang corny ng questionnaire ng POPCOM, they asked about love, sex, children, income. JJ messed w/ their heads today.

  23. We went to the Civil Registrar's office today, had to pay for stuff. Our sorry ass aren't so privileged at all (cont) http://tl.gd/a9otqe

  24. Kamahal sa banana split at a fave hang-out oy, it costs 195pesoses. I didn't buy, it's worth a small tub of local ice cream.

  25. @BSuaco yeah #perspective. (:

  26. Kenji. ♥

  27. I am not even in Davao but I know how my sister's heart is breaking at the moment. #pakset

  28. Kenji might be enrolled at the Lamb of God SPED classes for kids w/ special needs. We've been denying this fact the whole time.

  29. @BSuaco bata batuta ang nakabuntis nako. He needs parental consent or something. Lol ah.

  30. @rakstarppip naconfused ko pila ka months. But, I would never know the difference if I don't try. Anyway, madato pod ko puhon. Carry rah! ;p

  31. @Chekakramer go get ice cream! W/ chocolate syrup and the works! (;

  32. Last night was fun, we were at Pepe's for dinner and the Chalet for drinks. I dated 2 really tall boys.

  33. @rakstarppip haha. I gave it some thoughts. This is kuyaw najud oi.

  34. @BSuaco cuz the court needs our birth certificate- we left them at home, and he is just 22, he needs his mommy. Hahaha. Ka frakken funny.

  35. Ahay, Kenji's taking 2 qualifying exams for school today. Makes you think how half a decade just cleared past through you.

  36. J and his guy buddy who is the wafu-est in the city are now in a spa, getting a massage. How awfully sweet.

  37. My mother will strangle me. Kevs.

  38. Relationships aren't perfect. Life isn't perfect either. But, I know I'm bound to be wealthy one day, like (cont) http://tl.gd/a95snm

  39. We were supposed to get married today through civil rites. I almost choked when we were at the hall of justice, (cont) http://tl.gd/a95rh4

  40. Got the baby bag today: http://tinyurl.com/454k4g5! #babypirate J is happier than me. Lol ah.

  41. @ChinPossible ug nganu mag pa tan ka? Wag lang. Na obsessed pod ko og wanting to be parang wla dugo kaputi. Haha.

  42. @BSuaco Ewwwwwwwwww. Mayu nalang tong Lucky Me Jampoong amo ginapalit og Nissin Yakisoba.

  43. @BSuaco gusto ko Maclaren na toddler stroller. But, we can't afford anything cuz dukha na insik ako fiancé, so mag asa ko'g hand me down. ;p

  44. @itsmetwixy for some reason ma-abstain ko mag log in FB today. Mag hanap ng iba. Ayaw ko skanya.

  45. "Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Liste http://twitpic.com/4t679s

  46. Coincidence is God's way of remaining anonymous.

  47. @BSuaco gigoogle nako what Unagidon is. Haha. Are eels boneless?

  48. Ana pa si Dichee basig aswang daw bayhana. Haha. 2 na sila murag aswang diri sa workplace eh.

  49. ..mag sige storya nako, musud sa office tas maski kita naa ko phone or nag-use PC mag storya gihapon.. Irits baya jud.

  50. Dijud baya ko nagaminaldita sa sales staff, those who wait tables, & mga tighinlo, gikomash rajud ko aning usa ka cleaning staff at work..

  51. @itsmetwixy nabasahan ko na. Wag nalang Tweksi. Wag.

  52. @itsmetwixy tapusin na ang pag-ibig. Wag nalang. Maherap ang may prob with alcohol.

  53. My baby loot from Oz will be shipping in soon! Cannot wait! #babypirate

  54. @itsmetwixy dasegaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. Gahulat ko! Haha.

  55. @BSuaco pregnancy is not a walk in the park jud noh? I get pissed off when I see pregnant gals smoke or take alcohol.

  56. @itsmetwixy DM nalang here in Twitter. I am waiting! Hahaha.

  57. Hormone gel to reduce risk of preemie births from NY Times: http://tinyurl.com/3kazftr

  58. I also have a colleague who was 5 months pregnant years ago. She recalled waking up to a bed drenched with her blood. She lost twins.

  59. She was smoking and drinking even in her last trimester. It doesn't take an abortionist to harm a fetus you know.

  60. My guy's galpal partied w/ them last night, she just gave birth. Her baby died- it was just 3 weeks old.

  61. Hindi ko kakayanin ang torture ng online class. So bukas nalang. Tah-tah. Makakapoy isip.

  62. @itsmetwixy I want chismis, not kwento lang. Hahahaha. Wala ko friends or girl friends from work. Sad. :( Chismis away na!

  63. @itsmetwixy anuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu.

  64. @BSuaco I would've chosen a girly one but, yeah sige nalang, he will have to bear with girly things in the future. (",

  65. ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.’ -KurtVonnegut

  66. and so they had to turn around abashed for trying to land there. I would crack at really shallow jokes oi. Samoka.

  67. A manager here is a real character. He joked abt buying whole Libya & when the US Airforce is abt to land, they saw a PRIVATE PROPERTY sign

  68. I've an online learning course to finish and there's a test to answer after. Ambot oi, kakapoy. Makatamad na jud mag work hard lageh.

  69. @rakstarppip promise Pip. Nakapiyong jud ko. Later na nako narealize na naga lakaw ko naka tulog. Haha.

  70. @BSuaco I'm getting a drab grey na murag sling bag cuz tat's wt the baby daddy asked me to get so he wont be self conscious of carrying dw.

  71. @BSuaco I did, but the smaller almost satchel/messenger looking one is not available online na. And mahal if I got it in Rustan's. (:

  72. There's the rib-poke again. #babypirate

  73. Gobbled 2 buko salad iced candy in maybe 3 minutes flat. There goes a spoonful of sugah!

  74. I saw the perfect baby bag from Carter's! Buying it on payday. First baby thing I will ever buy. (:

  75. Date night last night, we saw Thor and had baby back ribs with rice pilaf at Pepe's.

  76. Baha nasad ang Davao. Naunsa man?

  77. Even the trisikel drivers and barkers at the kanto await #babypirate. Every time nalang mag ask if I'm popping na. Haha, commoners ayu mi!

  78. Grabeh lisod bangon daily as the tummy gets heavier. Naglakaw ko nipiyung towards the sakayan today.

  79. @BSuaco same here. They take time too. I hate waiting.

  80. "In life we all have an unspeakable secret, an irreversible regret, an unreachable dream and an unforgettable love." — Diego Marchi

  81. Forgot to watch St. Pierre's fight over the weekend. Nugon.

  82. @Martinabugarin told you, you'd bag it! Congratulations. (;

  83. @Martinabugarin artesta ang lola ko!

  84. Pildi ako gina-root for sa American Idol. :(

  85. @ThaThaTgurL kung maka what's this ka. Hahahahaha. Mapa-Cebu Beach Club ko pag leave ko in 3 weeks! (: Baybay na sha sisterhood.

  86. Tambuli!

  87. Kenji on Labor Day/ Mommy's birthday. http://twitpic.com/4slt4p

  88. Belated Happy Birthday Dichee. http://twitpic.com/4slqa7

  89. It's a battle between being a Nafsika or a Trifina. Lol. #babypirate

  90. Twitter is now an endless scroll. (Realized I backed up 4000++ tweets.) How does someone go the 2009 archives? #putthegeekon

Wouldn't it be nice if we get married?




Our civil wedding was solemnized yesterday. May 9, 2011. Judge Rojo from Branch 5(of BC Hall of Justice) officiated the ceremony. I think the wedding rites lasted for a good hour. He first counselled us about SSS pension and contribution, about the law governing retirement pay entitlement even if you worked in a call center, and preparing for old age and not expecting help from your offsprings. His advices did not only constitute the legal aspect of marital life but also practical ways to save married couples of the heartaches of finances or from their kids in the future. He was not corny at all. I love how the counselling was unexpected and really light, and it was FUN.

He then explained the 3 facets of legalities in marriage, our ability to contract, that we came on our own volition, and the legal documents needed for marrying such as the marriage license.

Furthermore, he asked us if we wrote our vows. We didn't, so we asked him that we follow the traditional vows spoken from generations amongst generations. But he took a wedding reading/ promise fom the Bible:
"Do not urge me to leave you or turn back from following you; for where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.

"Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. Thus may the LORD do to me, and worse, if anything but death parts you and me."
Ruth 1:16-17
As J spoke his vow, I wind up in tears. I was surprised too cuz we were laughing the whole time as J promised the judge that he'd give me TLC- and he quipped: tomatoes, lettuce, and cheese, sandwich we had for breakfast. ;p

After the exchanges of wedding vows, Judge Rojo spoke to us again. He read some passages from the Bible about God's supplication. About God not leaving us wanting or lacking of things. About the wife's expectation from the husband w/c is protection and the husband's from the wife- submission. About staying together and about how we export mothers and fathers overseas, leaving a dysfunctional family.

It was beautiful altogether. I couldn't help but feel blessed because God answered my prayers even if I hadn't really mouthed it- through the judge who took presided our civil wedding.

We then had lunch at L Fisher hotel. The gathering was so intimate, we had J's mother(who prayed over the wedding rites before it started) and his half-sister, and his BFF as guests. Lol. I wish my family was there to see it too, but everything was impromptu.

My husband can be a pain in the tush most times, but now I hold on to his vow and the solemn promise of the ring on my finger.

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

My Cutie Patootie

I miss how small Keken used to be.

"Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me... Anything can happen, child. Anything can be."

Monday, May 2, 2011

of the mundane and ordinaries


-We've been watching this Manga series entitled One Piece, it's about a boy who has the flexibility of a rubber and is self-assured that he will be the King of the Pirates. Funnnnnnnn. It's been 3 days already and we're still hooked.

-Realized that mothers cannot just let go of their first-born. I wish I wouldn't wind up like such. I don't aim to be the coolest mom, but I just wish that one day my daughter would just become the person whom she wants to be and that I would understand most, if not all things she's gonna go through. (To condone is really different from understanding.) And I would just learn to let go.

-We had supper at Raffy's Sizzlers last night, it's the most disgusting place to eat in the city. Haha, promise, I would rather have chow at the pungko pungkos in Cebu.

-I got a measly 2k from my old apartment's deposit. I honestly cannot recall that there's a 60 day-inform-the-owner-you'll-leave clause w/in the contract. IT PAYS TO READ AND KEEP COPY OF CONTRACTS!

-I've been totally hormonal. There are days when I loathe JJ for not doing the chores at home on time, and there are days when I feel so lovey-dovey towards him. These states are both driving me nuts.

-On vivid dreams, last night I dreamt of our first family house in South Cotabato, you know how a place would seem too gigantic for a 2 or 3 year old? I really miss having my own parents at their own house no matter how annoying both of them can be most times. ;p

-Cut a finger while sponging a kitchen knife, I've been really making progress in making meals though, I can "cook" garlic fried rice w/ sweet ham with the help of this MSG-laden seasoning- Ginisa Flavor Mix, and make a mean potato,macaroni salad. (: Or maybe my boy's just hungry.

-J lost his dad when he was 7 to a heart attack. His dad was as tall as he and he was medium built(I've seen photos), I pass through the cemetery where his dad lays on my daily commute, makes me wonder if it's more hurtful to grow up without a father, or to grow up with an alcoholic father who'd let you down numerous times. In both ways, I think it's hurtful.

-I'm still waiting for the engagement ring. Haha, I wanted it more than wanting to be married. You can always return the ring, but you can't return your husband's last name. It will be indelible if you don't have money for annulment. (Sometimes, I think two people can't always stay together forever, even if they promise to. I wish I would be wrong about this when it comes to me and my child's father.)

-My back hurts, my stomach hurts, and I always wind up worried because I get attacked by heartburn every so often.

-I kinda wanna go toiletries shopping today, I want huge bottles of hair detangler(cumbersome to comb one's hair), Calgon spritz that smells like ocean, and a tub of body butter. Maybe tomorrow. Maybe on weekend. I'm too lazy to budge.

-Dichee turned 28 on May 1. Philippine Labor Day. I like her birthday. It's a reminder to work really hard and work honestly even if you sometimes don't want to.

-Kairi at 2 can now feel sibling rivalry and says her Mommy loves her Shobe only. Oh well, I will only have one child to spare me of the guilt.


  


Truth disappears with history and gossip tells us in the end nothing of personal relationships. There are stories of elopements, unrequited love, family feuds, and exhausting vendettas, which everyone was drawn into, had to be involved with. But nothing I said of the closeness between two people: how they grew in the shade of each other’s presence. No one speaks of that exchange of gift and character – the way a person took on and recognized in himself the smile of a lover.
Michael Ondaatje, Running in the Family

kenjisan

i miss you baby. :(
he knows how to fib na, he says his mom spanks-punches him. hahaha. smoka bataa.